The Gift Of Friendship: Remembering Those Dear To Me


Outdoors, Wellness / Friday, April 20th, 2018

Sometimes it’s the smaller things in life which make the biggest impact. When you get a bit older, you start to notice all the things you did wrong, or what you could’ve potentially done differently.

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Beautiful views at Wells-Next-The-Sea with dearest friends

For me, I often think about the friends I’ve loved and lost over the years. It happened one way or another: we fell out or we drifted. Maybe we’ve now become those friends that text once in a blue moon to check in – texts that go something like this:

“Hey! How are you? Haven’t spoken in a while!”

“Heya! Yeah, I’m fine thanks! Been so busy with work and life, but yeah! Things are great! What about you?”

“Also good, thanks! Glad you’re doing well! We should meet up sometime soon!”

“Definitely, we should do that!”

We never do, though.

Whichever way it happened, losing the gift of friendship makes me wonder whether I could have kept it alive somehow. But it’s very hard to compare myself now to who I was in my late teens/twenties. People change dramatically over that time, and I’ve had a life overhaul essentially. Changed my beliefs, morals, and core values.

If I think back to some of the friendships I lost because of a disagreement, for example, my 30 year-old-brain struggles to understand why I let that happen. It’s so easy to fix a relationship if you try. And it’s not even that difficult. But, for 18-year-old me, I would’ve rather died than admit I was wrong – especially if I thought I wasn’t.

The problem always comes down to pride and being humble – even if, in your mind, the disagreement wasn’t your fault, or if you believe you were completely right. Apologising and trying to win your friend back is always going to be the right thing to do. In the end, meaningful connections are so much more important than maintaining our pride.

I wish I would have done this more.

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My friend Agnes and I at Wells-Next-The-Sea, Norfolk

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Now, as a 30-year-old, the gift of friendship is so important, and I try to show that all the time whenever I can.

Even though I don’t have that much money, what I have often gets spent on things to make people happy. And I often think, what’s the use of having money if you can’t use it to brighten people’s lives – even if it’s just a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts 😉

When I go shopping, go on holiday, or even when I just pop to Tesco, I’m always low-key looking out for things I know my friends would like. I like seeing the smile on their faces when I give them a gift.

So, when I heard the Old English Company had a new collection of enamel pins, I jumped at the opportunity to work with them.

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They are the cutest pins ever and they make the perfect small gift for your loved ones. And if like me, your friends or family have varied tastes or interests, there is something for everyone. The few I’ve linked below are my favourite.

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“You’re My Fox” Enamel Pin
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“You Can” Heart Enamel Pin
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“Coffee First” Enamel Pin

As a bonus, the Old English Company are also running a competition to celebrate this new range; giving people the opportunity to win the set of pins below.

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The Enamel Pins You Could Win!

All you have to do is pick your favourite out of the entire collection and email it to the company here >> hello@oldenglishcompany.com

They will pick the winner at random on the 30th May 2018.

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Alex and I being silly on Wells beach

I cherish these moments together. How privileged we are now to be able to photograph and document these experiences so accurately to keep those memories alive.

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I hope you have a wonderful weekend and you get to spend it with those dearest to you.

Love,

tiger mint debs

P.S. This is a Sponsored Post by the Old English Company, but all the opinions are my own 🙂

 

13 Replies to “The Gift Of Friendship: Remembering Those Dear To Me”

  1. I have lost friends over the years as well. Mostly, we have drifted because family and work has gotten in the way but also because we are just on different paths in our lives. Still, though, it is nice to reach out every now and then just to say hello. #MMBC

  2. I think keeping friendships healthy is really hard work!! My best friend and I often discuss this — there are some friends that if I didn’t make the effort, I’d probably never see them! Question is, would I miss them if that happened?!

    1. That is a good thought. Some of the friendships I’ve lost, I’m better off without, I think. After the loss, a weight has been lifted. Whilst it’s important to keep friendships alive, it’s equally important to keep toxic relationships from hurting you and your life. Thanks for making this point. xx

  3. I was only thinking the other day of friends I no longer see. There were no arguments but we just lost touch and drifted apart. I could have done more to keep in touch but I do feel that sometimes your friends at the time are the ones that you need to focus on. #mmbc

  4. Speaking from my retirement phase of life, it is sad when we lose people. They seem to come and go. I do believe some friendships have to do with our stage of life and a need. Later the need is gone and we seem to move on.

    1. This is very true. The friends I had in school have very different lives to me now. Maybe it would be a lot harder to keep those relationships alive if the option was there xxx

    1. Aw thank you, they are very cute, aren’t they?
      Yes, I’m getting the feeling from the comments on this post, we’re all in the same boat really.
      Here’s to the new friends I’ll make on my new blogging journey <3 xx

  5. I couldn’t agree more Debbie. We can so easily lose touch with our friends as we all go down different paths. Me and my bestie have been friends for nearly 35 years so since we were tiny! She’s more like a sister to me.
    Love the pins too, how cute!

    Thanks for sharing with #MMBC 🙂 x

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